On December 5, 2011 I began “Chris Writes Daily.” Back then it was called “Write Every Day” and it the posts looked a lot different, but the idea was the same.
Just like last anniversary, I’ll be putting up some links to my favorite posts of the last 12 months. Look for those tomorrow.
Thank you to everyone who has supported me over the last two years.
Q:Do your milkshakes bring all the boys to your yard?
Q:Once I graduate I plan on leaving for California. I'm from a small town and I was wondering, did you move a long way from home alone? I'm eager to leave, I just worry about being alone in a big city with very little, you know? Just seeking some advice. Thanks!
I don’t think I am really qualified to give you advice about any of this. I can really only give you advice based on my own experiences.
On the other hand, I love talking about myself.
I could probably dissertate on my experience living in LA so far, so in the interest of not writing volumes, I’ll keep it to bullet points.
- I moved from Rhode Island to LA, which is about 3000 miles away.
- LA County is nearly 4 times the size of the state that I am from. Just the city prime is 1/3 the size of RI.
- I knew a few people out here (one or two I could definitely stay with for a little while when needed), but no family.
- Don’t over-fantasize. I say this lovingly, but LA is just another bullshit town. That said, it does have it’s poquitos of coolness and you should take the time to find the ones that you like most. (I recommend Los Feliz, Larchmont, downtown Burbank, Santa Monica, and the Abbot-Kinney area of Venice Beach.)
- The first 12 - 18 months will be the worst. You may not be homesick, but you’ll be broke, lonely, and basically everything you can imagine can go wrong will go wrong.
- Don’t be afraid to accept help. It’s hard enough just getting out here. Staying out here is even harder. If you don’t have friends or family to stay with cheap/free, you should save at least enough money to float yourself for three months…
- …and if you are looking for work in a particular industry, make sure you come out here just before the time of year companies in that industry tend to hire.
- Also, research where those companies are located. Even if it costs more to live in that area, public transportation in LA is confusing, slow, and unreliable at best. If you can’t drive out here (or can’t afford to buy on once you’re here), this could be the difference between staying and going back home. Really, though—LA is a driving city.
- Speaking of that, it’s really unlikely you’ll find rent anywhere in the city you’ll feel comfortable living, for less than $650/Month for your portion of the rent—maybe more depending on when you move.
Without knowing more about your particular situation, I can’t really give you specific advice. These are just a few things I think of when thinking of my first 15 months here in LA. If you’d like to send me a message not on anon, I’ll reply privately.
All I can say is, no matter what, stay positive. No matter how much things didn’t go my way, no matter how bad I felt, I reminded myself that whatever was happening, it was just something that would make someone else—the people who don’t “make it”—go home… but not me. I wasn’t going to let it be the reason I gave up.
Whatever the reason you want to come to California, if it’s a good enough reason to move thousands of miles, it’s a good enough reason to do everything possible to stay and make it happen. When you get here, no one hands you a ticket with an expiration date on it that says, “make it by this day, or you’re a failure.” You define success and failure. Decide you won’t fail—that you can’t—and you won’t.
Q:How is your heart?
Q:I'd flirt with you shamelessly with the anon off. Okay, no I wouldn't. If I didn't have shame I'd flirt with you with the anon off. But I'm too creepy and awkward for that. Even on the internet. Oh god. Now I'm rambling. Oh no. This is turning into one of those moments where I keep going even though I'm done talking--in this case writing--and I have no idea where this is going--penis.
Q:Hi... *Notices you turned anon again. Tries to not take this opportunity to flirt with you shamelessly*.
Q:I've been having a major shit-stressed week and your posts have been seriously cheering me up. Thank you for making me laugh.
You’re welcome. Thanks for reading.
Q:Well your stuff's gotten dark. Any particular reason for that?
I feel like it’s always been about this dark, though, objectively speaking, I had a pretty rough year.
Q:Why does a fuck, fuck a fuck?
Q:wait why is your blog trying to be so official looking ? how old are you?
The blob makes attempts at officiality because I am a professional writer (and actor).